The Compliment Conundrum

So, I think it’s pretty safe to say that the majority of us women are insecure in one area or another. There are definitely some situations that only seem to amplify this insecurity like what happened to me this weekend. I woke up early and did a 5K on Saturday. But this wasn’t just any 5K, it was the Bubble Run, meaning you ran (I totally walked) through several setups waiting to cover you in colored, sticky bubble mess. By the time I was done, I was a weird mixture of sweat, runny makeup and dye. In other words, I was not very attractive.

After the run, obviously the next option was to have lunch. It was my mom’s birthday and since she was with me, I definitely wanted to celebrate with her. But I was feeling so gross, and since I’m already plus size, if I’m not on top of my game when I leave the house, I literally have no confidence. So there I was, just trying to fade into the background hoping to get my meal in and leave when my daughter gives me the joyful present of needing her diaper changed. Up to this point I had gotten away with a lot. We had seating on the patio, meaning I hadn’t had to make much eye contact with anyone other than the waiter. But this diaper service really changed the scheme of things. It meant I’d have to parade through the restaurant to get the deal done.

As I opened the door to the restroom, my eyes fell on a gorgeous woman leaning into the mirror to apply more makeup. She had the perfect body- big boobs, tiny waist and nice curves. It was the kind of body I could only dream of having. As I was staring at her in sheer awe, she turned to me and gave me a compliment. She said she liked my hair. All I could think about was why she was giving ME the compliment. Certainly she was the more deserving party! I thanked her and told her she was beautiful before I went on my way. But that got me thinking, why don’t we compliment each other more?

I know for me a lot of it has to do with fear of talking to another stranger. But if it’s going to make someone’s day, why would I hold something like that back? It’s a simple sentence or two that the receiving party won’t mind hearing. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this but I plan to be doling out more sweet words as I pass random people by in life. It doesn’t make sense not to.

6 Comments Add yours

  1. kage2015 says:

    Kinda words take no effort or a smile and have a nice day b


  2. I love when girls support girls. I definitely appreciate getting compliments more from my fellow ladies than I do men, for some reason. The Bubble Run looks like so much fun! You two are adorable! 🙂

    xoxo, Sam |


  3. Compliments are so great to give out, and yes we all need to do it more often! Great post and good food for t hought!



  4. I have made it a personal rule to blurt our compliments whenever they come to my mind. The reactions have been really interesting but I am in agreement with you. We need to do it much much more. Specific and sincere feedback can be so lovely.


  5. Michelle says:

    I love this post! Such a great reminder to give more compliments (I need lots of homework in this arena) and I also love your honesty!


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