Sticks and Stones

There has been something weighing on my mind this Christmas season and it all starts in the office. I work with some really incredible ladies. They are beautiful, strong and intelligent and I’m blessed to know each and every one of them. I want to preface this post by saying this is not to be misconstrued as anything negative towards them at all because, frankly, we all struggle with this everyday. In addition, I don’t want to talk about the next subject to call anyone out. Instead, I want to use this recent example as an eye-opener or even just something to think about.

I’m probably one of the most unhealthy eaters out of us all. Typically we’ll all go out to lunch together and I’ll literally be the only one not ordering salad. I work with a group of very disciplined ladies who value their health but also the size of their waist and there’s nothing really wrong with this. I have no problem saying that I am by far the largest of all us. It’s something I’ve gotten used to and even comfortable with. We’ve had clothing swaps in the office before and I’m not able to participate due to not being able to fit in anyone’s leftovers. Many of these women are thin or average size. So it surprises me to hear such negative talk around their bodies.

It happens more often than I’d like. They will complain about how they need to lose weight, that they’ve gotten so big and they’re embarrassed of it. Meanwhile, I’m standing here at least four sizes bigger being all too aware of their comments. If they can’t stand their own bodies, what do they think of mine? Do they find me disgusting and unattractive? Certainly not. So why do they feel this way about themselves? We are often so critical on ourselves. I’ve seen a saying that basically is along the lines of, I wish I were as fat as the first time I thought I was fat. This could not be more true! I remember being so ashamed of my size in high school. If I was even half the size I was in high school, I’d be tiny! Ladies, we have got to stop beating ourselves up and find contentment in our bodies right now. Yes, it’s okay to be healthy and yes it’s okay to want to lose weight but we can’t pick ourselves apart so harshly. We have to cut these bodies some slack. They work hard for us every, single day.

Think about it this way, the one thing you really hate about your body some lady out there is wishing she could have. Find the beauty in who you are right now. And to each and every one of my co-workers, you are all so beautiful. See that and own it!

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