It seems like everywhere we go we are surrounded by messages of how we should look, what we should buy and even how we should feel. It’s only gotten stronger with the advancements of technology. Heck, all of us carry a very powerful super computer with us everyday– our phones. Most of us allow these messages to be an active part in our lives through social media. In fact, we often choose to follow certain types of people we want to know more about. How many celebrities do you currently follow on Instagram? And then there are the influencers that fit within different hobbies and interests we have. We give them permission to be a part of what we see and think everyday. That’s why I feel it is so important to take notice of who we let in our feeds.
Like most people, I too follow models, celebrities, makeup artists and more. I love the inspiration they offer. However, I also realize that allowing them in my view can subject me to a level of perfection that is impossible to obtain. Most of these people have photographers, makeup artists and more to help them portray a certain image. They present a beautiful narrative that is not raw or completely real, it hides behind filters and deceptive techniques to tell the story they want us to see. And while many of us know this to be true, we often forget it. I find myself so often getting caught up in it all, wishing I had their hair or body.
That’s why when I made the decision to add a bunch of body positive advocates to my follow list, it changed everything! Scrolling through my feed to find various body types that celebrate who they are is so refreshing. It has encouraged me to give myself a little more grace and embrace both my strengths and my flaws. Below are a few people I enjoy following and I hope you’ll add them to your Instagram as well. I think you’ll see that once they become integrated into your daily content, your whole outlook will transform for the better.
Something I realised last year is that I've spent the majority of my life giving other people the power to define me, rather than taking that power for myself. I've let others decide how beautiful I am, how smart I am, whether my thoughts are valuable, even allowing them to tell me what my own intentions or beliefs are, and thinking that they must be right, even when they break me down into worthless pieces. Since then I've been trying my best to unlearn that. To reclaim my right to define myself. To trust that I know me, what I believe, who I am, and ultimately, my own worth, better than they do. Because if we don't take that power for ourselves, we'll spend our lives being broken into pieces by everyone else's opinion of us. And we have too much to do, to learn and to BE to waste time giving ourselves away to people intent on devaluing us. I'll probably spend a lifetime unlearning the idea that how I see myself is in everyone's hands except my own. But I think it'll be worth it. Because even a drop of that power reclaimed and placed in our own hands, is stronger and brighter and a million times more valuable than their approval ever could be. So let's go find that. Let's build a sense of self so strong that nobody could convince us we are what we're not. 💜💙💚🌈🌞 Photograph by @lindablacker 📷 first image colour edited to fit the photographer's theme ✨ second image completely raw and untouched 🌸
My arms don’t fit well in coats, they haven’t for years (and yes, @kickingitwithkutch is checking to see if my biceps are bigger than his.) The jury is still out. 💪🏼 But what I really love is the way this guy looks at me. He doesn’t see “flaws,” he sees me. I wake up every day and challenge myself to see me and my body through his eyes, because he loves every bit of me. ✨ So cheers to the ones who accept us, embrace us, see us, and love us. Let’s give ourselves the love we so freely offer to others. 🎉 (I’m also totally buttering him up because he’s stuck at home putting together furniture I ordered online… I call it a “workshop,” he works, I shop! Oops, sorry babe!) 🙋🏼 Tag the person below who loves you unconditionally! Photo: @mrslindseyroman
Happy Friyay, Wow this week has been crazy but wanted to update you on @everyBODYwithiskra 😬😬😬 We are 2weeks into my health + fitness + self-care program and app. ✨✨✨ (Link to sign up in my bio) ✨✨✨ And literally Day 1 I already started receiving such heart warming feedback that you loved the first boxing workout with @heathertheheat and love trying the delish recipe ideas🙌 I want to start posting the reviews because it’s exactly why I wanted to create this safe space that talked about health as not just a physical goal or expectation that’s been set by the media. But also talk about mental and emotional health. And that this journey of self love isn’t about a before and after photo (unless that’s your thing – you do you girl!) it’s about how you feel everyday and living a life free from insecurity to be fully open to all life has to offer! I also believe when you fall in love with your body and see it as your home you’re going to want to look after it, respect it and value it for all it enables you to do🙌 So if you would like to enrich your life with self-love, health and happiness try #everyBODYwithiskra there’s actually a 7day free trial so you can see how you feel. ✨✨✨ Link to join now in my bio ✨✨✨ I’ve made it to fit into your life not ask you to change everything or be unrealistic. I don’t believe in restriction, or telling you what you can and can’t do but instead offering you my support along with expert nutritionists, physiologists, athletes and trainers with a daily videos, workouts and food inspiration😍 And HUGE S/o to all the sparkies who have already signed up and are part of the private Facebook community i LOVE reading how you’re finding the program literally my heart is so so full YOU are why I wanted to create this safe space amidst what can be a very intimidating, elitist, exclusive, diet culture driven fitness industry. YOU are my motivation and inspiration ILYSM🙏🙏🙏❤️
Here's the thing. I hear a lot of women say that they can't afford to buy new clothes and this is why weight gain is so hard for them, they can't afford it. (I get it, we don't all have the same financial situation). However, when you're saying that at the same time as investing in weight loss programs I just can't take it seriously!! It's ok to be afraid of weight gain, we live in a culture that tells us that it is the #1 thing we should be worried about, you are not to blame. However, don't kid yourself with thinking that you fear weight gain because you don't want to buy new clothes, I promise you if you lost weight, you'd be at the mall in a minute celebrating that you're now wearing a smaller size. If you're really focused on the clothes on this journey, know that it is likely just a distraction from the real pain and insecurities you may still be holding around not being as thin as you once were. Bodies were meant to change, with the fast fashion we have going on in our culture right now, you'll be fine. Find a clothing swap to go to, get together with some friends and share clothes. Your freedom is not worth giving up because you don't feel like buying bigger jeans, once you're finally free from food and body shame that shit just won't matter anymore (at least not as much as it does now). Do you focus a lot on clothing on this journey? Is there anyway this could be a distraction from your real feelings around your body? Image from @bodyposipanda . . . . . #bodypositive #bopo #yycwellness #haes #edrecovery #selfloveisthebestlove #effyourbeautystandards #yycfitness #bodylove #youarebeautiful #embracethesquish #healthyisthenewskinny #ihaveembraced #bedrecovery #anarecovery #antidiet #neda #antidietculture #antidiet #thebodylovesociety #youaintyourweight #bodypositvity #loveyourbody #nomorediets #intuitiveeating #worthoverweight #bodypositvitymovement #nomorediets #pregnancydiet #ditchthediet
Don’t stop living your life to the fullest. Don’t cower. Don’t hide. Remember those who speak to stop you, choose to spend their precious time standing in the way of others versus enjoying what this world has to offer. They try to stop you from living, because they themselves are afraid to live. 📸 @larabellenewyork #bikini #miami #rainbow #plussize #bodypositive #livelife
Of course, I’d love to connect with you as well. You can find me on Instagram at @jillianhailey
It felt so good to put on a dress and makeup yesterday. I haven't dressed up in weeks since having the little one. Spending time at home with him is definitely a joy but it's good to feel like myself again. Not to mention this dress was only $10! 🙌 Taking that first step to shed the insecurity and forget the baby pounds can be hard but it’s worth it. I have to remember that I’m my worst critic. I can’t let the scale get in my way of feeling beautiful. 📸: @jes_pedersen